There is strength in being kind. Let me repeat that and say it with me. There is strength in being kind.
Getting angry, shouting, spouting off belittling and demeaning thoughts are easy to an undisciplined mind. It doesn't mean that a disciplined mind doesn't have those thoughts creep in, but they have disciplined their inner thoughts to dismiss them. Individuals with strong self-discipline immediately replace those thoughts with constructive ways to help turn down a heated situation.
It begins with learning why we have an emotional response when something is said or done to us. If an untruth is said about us, do we get angry? Why? What are we afraid to loose?
Emotions of anger have a seed of fear. Find out what you are afraid to loose and you can peel back the layers of memories to find when that seed of fear was planted. Most likely, it was planted as a child.
As we review those memories as an adult, we can find clarity. The question then we need to ask ourselves,
- If I lost what I feared of loosing, what would occur?
- How would I overcome that loss?
Once the fear of loss is understood, we can then look at the words which caused us such anger. Most likely, we can then just laugh. There is no need to become angry, when we know what was said about us, doesn't reflect who we are. Instead, it reflects who the individual is.
We in essence cut the puppet strings, and no longer allow our emotions to be controlled by another. Every action by another, doesn't require a reaction from ourselves. Be cautious about feeding another's addiction to get an emotional reaction from others.
Focusing on our internal commitments, will strengthen the external commitments we make to others.